Be the Mountain (or How I Found Equanimity on a Meditation Cushion)

Be the Mountain (or How I Found Equanimity on a Meditation Cushion)

Early this year, I made the decision to let go of something that meant a great deal to me. This particular something was a situation I wished was different. A situation that I could accept at an intellectual level, but emotionally, I just couldn't deal with any longer. After struggling with this for months, finally [...]

Love is Everything, Part 2 – Sexuality, Acceptance and Mental Health

Love is Everything, Part 2 – Sexuality, Acceptance and Mental Health

The no-sex thing has never really been that big a problem. What has made things difficult is that I’m still capable of physical attraction and emotional connection. Love, in other words. After all, love is not sex and sex is not love. They’re two completely different things. As a society, we’re completely fine with sex [...]

Silencing the Harshest Critic – the Positive Effects of Exercise on Anxiety

Silencing the Harshest Critic – the Positive Effects of Exercise on Anxiety

I distinctly remember the onset of my eating disorder, though it wasn’t something I was consciously aware of at the time. It appeared suddenly and immersed itself in my world, like a new friend that I didn’t want to disappoint. I was 13 years old and my mum had just told me that she had [...]

Rookie Mistakes, Part 2 – Assembling Your Mental Armour

Rookie Mistakes, Part 2 – Assembling Your Mental Armour

Warning: this post contains details some may find distressing. Not all my confrontations were face-to-face. One of my earliest investigations was a road-rage incident. A man driving a delivery van got into a altercation with another motorist, who was driving a little black sports car. It was one of those pissy incidents that happen a [...]

Close to Home – When the Victim Reminds You of Someone You Love

Close to Home – When the Victim Reminds You of Someone You Love

Warning: this post contains details some may find distressing. On a bitterly cold day in May 2015, a resident of a local beachfront property was standing at one of his windows when he noticed something unusual washed up on the shore. He walked down to the beach to find it was a man, drifting at [...]